March 6, 2014 in Uncategorized
If you are considering adoption, you have probably talked through and considered the many ways that adoption can change your life. You may have even done some research on adoption and foster care through informative sites such as www.fostercareadoptioncolumbusoh.com. But there is one driving question that you will need to be able to answer completely and honestly before you take steps forward in the adoption process. The question is a simple one, “why do you want to adopt a child?” You probably have an answer for the question on the tip of your tongue. But this question requires more than a pat and prepared answer. Adoption can be a wonderful blessing in your life, if you have explored your heart and your mind and know that the reasons you want to adopt are healthy and in the best interest of the child that you hope to bring into your family.
The Second Choice
Many people hope to be able to adopt a child once they have exhausted all options in attempting to have a biological child. Adoption is a wonderful way to start or expand your family if you are not able to do it in the traditional way. If you have discovered that you are not able to have a biological child of your own, you will need to experience a grieving process that is sure to come in the face of that knowledge. You will want to be sure that you are in a healthy and stable place so that your adoptive child does not end up feeling like they were the “second choice” or the next best option to having your “own” child. There are many support groups and counselors that support and guide couples through the experience of grieving for a dream lost and preparing to have your dreams of a family realized in a different way through the process of adoption.
Healing a Relationship
Many people (especially if they have been through the trials of trying to conceive without success) believe that adopting a child can heal a damaged relationship. Before you adopt a child in an attempt to create love and harmony between you and your partner, you need to consider the pressure and responsibility that will put on the child that you adopt. Ideally, every child that is adopted will have the opportunity to come into a home with two loving, healthy, functioning parents that can give that child all of the love and support that they will require without attached expectations whether they be spoken or silent.
Answering the Question
Adopting can be an incredible opportunity to grow or create the family that you have been hoping and dreaming of. At the heart of each decision to adopt needs to be a driving desire and need to do what is best for the child in every aspect. When you feel that you have answered the question “why do you want to adopt?” honestly and openly and still feel that adoption is the best option for you and your partner, you will want to take the next step by talking to the professionals who specialize in adoption at www.fostercareadoptioncolumbusoh.com.